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Post by Renniko on Oct 16, 2015 14:35:23 GMT
Atm I feel like shit. School is overwhelming (I'm in 10th grade or year 11) and I feel like no matter what when I grow up I'll have some shit cubicle job making enough to have a boring family. I want to be remembered and do something, which is sort of why I started YouTube. Even that I can't do, because it's so hard without any time with all the homework I get. I'm also gaining weight and losing friends. What do I do? How do I cope?
thanks in advance
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Evangelos
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Primeval Aryan
im not a fucking new member i was the first one here aron
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Post by Evangelos on Oct 17, 2015 0:28:16 GMT
The only practical advice I can give you is to try to stay positive and hold out till college. In the end, it's YOU who makes the decisions that dictate your life. Take the helm and make a change in your esteem and coping skills, however hard it may sound. dunno what else to say.
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ThijsBaekker
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I support PEC Zwolle and so will u
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Post by ThijsBaekker on Oct 18, 2015 16:35:21 GMT
No. Renniko, you've got it all wrong. The way you're looking at the world needs to change, drastically. Enjoy your fucking life, you'll only die once. It isn't about grades, work or money, no, those aren't goals - the only goal you'll have is happiness, and you can obtain that in many ways. Motivate yourself for god sake. Here, a story about myself: I am Thijs, 15 years old and currently in ~11th grade here in The Netherlands. Last shitty day I had was about 2 years ago. My parents divorced in the meantime, but I don't give a shit, they still see and like each other so why should I complain, it's just that my father is always abroad for work. My father is a sailing coach, however, he studied medicine and physiotherapy; he never finished it because he didn't want a boring job, so he became a sailing coach (he was a windsurfer/field-hockeyer before he had an disgusting injury and got called up for the army). Man has been to 7 Olympics and won gold as a coach. My mother is the complete opposite of my father. Both are handsome humans, however, he's tough, likes rock, house and rap while she's orchestrally-trained (she plays the cello)and very emotional and lovely. Got 1 sister, 13 y/o, can be a little bitch but she's very popular and good looking. Well that was very positive, wasn't it? We've got our downsides you know, but we try not to. I simply don't give a fuck, but I do not let that be clear to someone. I'm on a Gymnasium/Grammar school (best school there is in Holland, for smart kids). Got friends, not overly popular but everyone knows me. Bit introvert actually, mind my own business. I try to vary things: 12 hrs sports in the week (field-hockey), quite great at it, play drums 2 hrs a week (not that great at it, but I got the rhythm-feeling from my mother), go out drinking, smoking weed with friends, party, listen to music, art, family, cinema, shopping, girlfriend and so on. I don't give a fuck when a grade is bad because I am sure I will pass this year, I trust myself, but only myself. I enjoy the fucking rain because it's earthly, that's how positive I am at the moment. And you know why? You know why I told you like my goddamn life story? Because whatever you'll do or whatever happens to you, it will lead you to new opportunities. My parents are not poor but we're under-modal, don't have a nice house nor go far away on vacations, but the fact that I live in a poor neighborhood with my high-cultural upbringing only gives new insight. I'm not ashamed of my little house, why should I? Whenever I got money myself I spend it on way-too expensive clothes or basically give it away. I will not take that good-paid job, because I want to go out and see the world. Already got some things planned for when I'm done with school/uni, like going to Australia for a year for free (parents' connections) and going back-packing through South-America. Set goals and go for it. Gaining weight? Not a problem if you don't mind. if you do mind, lose it. No-one else will do it for you so get your shit together and start. Losing friends? Why did they go away is the first question. Is it because you've been a dickhead or are they just a bunch of dipshits? Youtube doesn't seem to be the option either, it could be nice and if you like doing it you should definitely go on, however, it's more important, at least in my eyes, to focus on the real life now. I told you I don't give a damn about things, but I always try my best. I will always be polite. The reasoning behind the "I don't give a fuck" attitude is that when shit goes bad, I'll try again next time. Learn from your mistakes and do it right the next time. Good luck my friend. Hope this will help you a bit, but you need to do this yourself. This isn't a guide either, your life is completely different, just some tips.
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Post by João Pinheiro on Oct 18, 2015 19:34:24 GMT
Just be confident in yourself and work hard. Very hard. If you're lazy you ain't gonna accomplish shit. And don't do stuff just for the sake of doing them. Do them when you feel like it, otherwise it will be pointless. When you feel like doing some shit you get that extra bit of pleasure which kicks you right in the feels. That's what makes life so interesting, when you enjoy doing the stuff you normally like to do, the small stuff specially. Listen to your family (for advice and shit), if you have any friends go do stuff with them sometimes but don't let anyone restrain you, remember it's you who controls your life, you make the decisions (as baevan said <3). So that's it basically: be confident, work hard, have fun and don't even let anyone tell you what to do.
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